Last week I was standing on the edge of a bridge with a client of mine, she flew in for a one day personal transformation retreat with me. We were throwing rocks into the river 25 feet below. On each heavy stone she had written a word that summed up one thing that used to weigh her down in her career, relationships and health that she no longer struggles with.
Another, splash, thud, and she felt the weight she has carried around for over 10 years sink away, washed clean.
But, none of this would have meant jack squat if we hadn't done something really important first: Help her get over what other people thought of her.
And that didn't just happen in the moment her burdensome graffiti clad rocks broke the surface.
Ever achieved something, reached a goal or level of success and then look around and realized afterwards that you don’t feel better for long? Not really anyway. That same small aching knot in your tummy is there before you go to bed.
And you think, “What’s wrong with me, I have so much to be thankful for, why can’t I just be ok with what I’ve got? Other people are worse off, have major hardships, and I can’t just be content?!”
I’ve been there, many of us have. In fact, almost every high powered client I’ve had has been there. But we rarely talk about it, because we’re embarrassed, or too flushed with heat and discomfort every time we really sit still with it.
So we shop, or drink, or binge on social media or work harder to distract ourselves. But in quiet moments, when we are alone, tha...